FOMO - Fear of missing out.

I did not know this was a 'thing' until recently. 
So I did some research because I felt like that I might fit in this box:

- Fear of missing out or FoMO is "a pervasive apprehension that others might be having rewarding experiences from which one is absent". This social angst is characterized by "a desire to stay continually connected with what others are doing". FoMO is also defined as a fear of regret, which may lead to a compulsive concern that one might miss an opportunity for social interaction, a novel experience, profitable investment or other satisfying events. In other words, FoMO perpetuates the fear of having made the wrong decision on how to spend time, as "you can imagine how things could be different".

Read more here

I read some more and come to a conclusion that, no, I will not say I have FoMO. I think, maybe you just shake your head now and think, ''Oh, no. You are FoMO''. 
 - BUT - maybe I am a bit FoMO? 
A few of these points get's to me.

1: I am addicted to social media, and update facebook way more often than 'normal' people. I need to know what's going on. I always have the phone close at all times, in case somebody should reach me I do normally answer really quick - because, I can't let them think I am ignoring them, or I might miss something if I don't see the message at once. . .!
BUT I try to not use the phone while I am in company with friends. Then I want to spend the time with them, and not the phone. They deserve my attention, not facebook. 

2:  When there in an event going on and I know many of my friends will attend, I know I want to go too, and if for some reason I can't - I end up getting really frustrating and upset.
I might even plan to go to events where I really don't want to be, like huge festivals or something - Just to be with friends there. But that was a long time ago, perhaps I was worse before.
Now I'm rational enough to know that: ''No, I don't like festivals. I will not attend. Period.'' 
But when it comes to small parties - I just hate to be left out, or not getting invited at least. (Who don't really) Again. It was much worse before.  Now I am capable to say 'No', because I'm tired or have to get up early the next day.
But not being able to go somewhere because you are promised away somewhere else. . . now THAT is torture. Just not being able to choose. The horror!


So. I'm sure we all know one FoMO person.
But do you know FoMO is areal thing, with a name and a 'cure'. Now you do. 
So next time you feel rage over your FoMO friend for looking at the phone while talking to you. . .  keep this in mind. They might not even know it themselves. 
How can YOU assist them. Pushing them away is surely not a good answer, is it? 
I will at least think of this. How can I help without being rude or pretend I'm a doctor. All in all. I just want to learn and understand them. Because it could easily be me - loosing friends and not even knowing why. Sometimes we just need that one person who dig under the surface.  

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